10. Orientation Plan and Script (E) (See Cover Letter)

Revised December 30, 2001

Orientation Message in English

My orientation session with couples actually begins with a letter I send to them prior to our meeting together. This letter helps them understand the main reasons for the orientation (referred to as “OR” from here on) and begins the process of drawing them into agreeing with me on certain points for the purpose, hopefully, of eliciting their agreement when I come to the message about the Living God and His desire to have relationship with us. 

The letter is presently in Japanese only and can be seen in the Japanese materials later in this book or in the third of the three floppy disks available free of charge.

The word-for-word script of the OR session is in both Japanese and Romaji (11 and 12 on the List of Materials) for the reference of those who might be interested in an example of a pre-ceremony meeting with the couples.

Because the words I speak in the OR session have changed over the past couple of years, I recently set out to re-translate the entire Japanese script into English.  I saw, however, that this would take far more time than I could allow.  Therefore I decided to leave the November 1998 English revision intact and redo only the “message” part of the script.

This message follows below, and after that appears the 1998 translation of the Orientation Plan and Script.  This version still gives a good idea of my general approach in the orientation session, but for an update of my explanation of the vows, the practical advice to the couple, and my opening and closing remarks, the reader is encouraged to read either the Japanese or Romaji script in this book or on the floppy disks.

The “message” part that follows takes off from the step by step “explanation” of the couple’s order of service?specifically, the “Bible Reading.”  The message concludes after the break and rehearsal and as the final point in my talk, “Guarantee of a Happy Marriage!”

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Back to the program now, there you see “Bible.”  In your ceremony we will read one of the most famous passages in the Bible.  It’s known around the world by countless people.  First, tell me, when we say “Bible,” does anything come to your mind?  Maybe you attended a Christian school, or perhaps read a bit of the Bible somewhere?  If not, never mind.  As you are is fine.

Someone might say, “Bible?  Even if I read it, I couldn’t understand a thick book like that!”  We understand that feeling, don’t we!  But did you know...the Bible is the worldwide best seller every year!  For more than a hundred years, every year, the world’s best seller!  Maybe even we can understand a book that popular!  Actually, there are some difficult places too.  If we don’t know the context of those places, we probably won’t understand them.  But there are so many places you will understand!  Take a look sometime. You’ll be surprised.  The Bible is an amazing book!

Many people say, “The Bible is beautiful literature.”  That is certainly true.  You may ask the university professors.  The Bible is known as some of the greatest literature of the world.  People also say, “It’s a compilation of great moral teachings.”  This is true, too.  For example?you’ve  heard it, haven’t you?“Do to others as you want them to do to you.”  Those famous words!  Think about it.  If we had really practiced this, don’t you think our society would be very different now?  The world tells us to get to the top even if we have to knock over somebody else!   “Do to others as you want them to do to you.”  What does that mean?  Gentleness.  Compassion.  Making the other person’s feelings more important than our own.  “Huh?   Not in our society!”  There is no other moral teaching that can even come close to these words!  They’re from the Bible.  Spoken by Jesus Christ.

There are so many things I would like to say about the Bible, but I can’t do that today.  However, let me explain one more thing about the Bible.  And here, I need some time.  Set aside your program for a while and listen to this explanation.  You will find this really informative and, also, it is at the very center of the meaning of the church wedding you have chosen.

About the Bible, one more thing…  To explain this, I must ask a very strange question: How is it that we are here, alive, today?  This human existence--how does it come about?  Is it by chance?  Also, what is the purpose of being alive?  Do we merely run the daily cycle of eating and sleeping, and finally we die, and that’s the end?  Just chance?  Wow!  Things have gotten pretty heavy all of a sudden, haven’t they!  But don’t you agree that this is a very serious matter for us to consider?

My friend?actually he’s my superior in many ways?Rev. Arase who is 85 years old, says this about chance:  “No meaning, no purpose.”  Sure enough, when we really think about it, that’s what chance is.  Let me ask, then, does your life have no meaning?  Is it empty of purpose?  It might be that you have felt this way at one time or another.

Rev. Arase goes on, “That’s what trash is!”  Indeed, trash is meaningless and without purpose.  It can just be thrown away!  OK, brace yourself!  Are you mere trash?  Isn’t that repulsive?  Don’t you feel uncomfortable?

In no way are we trash!  There is meaning in life!  There is purpose for our lives!  If so, how do we discover it?  No, more than “discovery,” how do we experience it?  Experience it!  Isn’t this the greatest question that faces us in life?

That experience, and the meaning of life, is in discovering what is behind the church wedding!  In other words, the meaning and purpose of life is in knowing the One who created marriage and who also made us.

That is, the Church declares that God is alive.  “Huh?  Whadda ya mean, God?”  The One who created heaven and earth.  The Only God. The One who is all knowing.  God made us also, and he has prepared a wonderful plan for each person’s life.  That is, He wants to have relationship with us and to walk with us through this life.

I don’t blame you if your reaction is “What? How can that be!”  I understand that this might be the very first time you are hearing such strange things.  Don’t worry.  Just relax and be yourself.

Most of us have an extremely vague notion of God.  There’s a god over there; there’s a god over here.  That’s a god, and, hey! this is a god too!  We are told that there are thousands of gods.

There are lots of religions, also, aren’t there.  This religion, that religion.  Someone says, “You don’t have to be concerned about religion!  They all say about the same thing anyway!  But, if you think there’s something for you in a religion, is OK to join.”  We are very vague about these things, aren’t we?  Young people like you might even be thinking, “Not interested!”

But wait!  If God actually exists, if there is a True God…if, I say, a Being who created heaven and earth actually exists, He can be only One!  If He is not the Only God, he is no god at all!  Then where did all those other gods around us come from?  This also is an extremely crucial issue in life!  Do consider this very carefully.

With this, we return to the explanation of the Bible.  “Beautiful literature, high moral teachings…”  Indeed, these are correct.  But today, the one more thing about the Bible is that it is history.  History.  What kind of history?  It is the record of how the Living God revealed Himself to us in our world!  “Huh?  Things are really getting strange now!”  Well, take a look sometime.  You will be absolutely amazed!  The Bible is an amazing Book!

Let me take just a few minutes to tell you how amazing it really is. You will find this also very helpful.  Before that, the Bible is divided into two parts?Old Testament and New Testament.  “Testament” means “contract” or “promise.”  So we have the “Old Promise” and the “New Promise.”  There isn’t time to explain this today.  Just to say this, the New Testament is the life of Jesus Christ and the record of the years that follow?maybe 100 or 150 years altogether.  You know, don’t you, that Jesus Christ actually lived about 2000 years ago.  He walked on this earth as a person of history.  He is recognized as one of the greatest teachers of all time.  So, the time prior to 2000 years ago is the Old Testament time, or, in other words, BC.

Did you know this, I wonder?Our present calendar was established because of the great influence of Jesus Christ.  Because of Jesus Christ, history divided between BC and AD?Before Christ and “The Time of Our Lord.”  So, this year is 2001!  “Wow!  Was He that great a person?”  Absolutely!  There is no other person who has exerted so great influence on history, and on our society, as Jesus Christ has.  Investigate.  You’ll see that it is so.

Now, some amazing things about the Bible…only two today.  First, the Old Testament was written over approximately 1500 years by 40 different people.  Of course, the period of history in the Old Testament is longer than that.  If we look into it, we too will discover that there might be 4000 years of history contained in the Old Testament.  But the record was written over about 1500 years by these 40 different people.

Now note this, most of these 40 people didn’t know each other.  Well, of course!  After all, we’re talking about 1500 years, and in many cases they lived in different countries!  Yes, most of them didn’t know each other, but?amazing fact number 1?all 40 say exactly the same thing!  There is no disagreement.  They all declare:  “God is alive!  We have seen the works of His hands!  We can know God!  We can actually experience Him!”  Thus declare with one voice the people who wrote the Old Testament.

Amazing fact number 2.  A moment ago we agreed that Jesus Christ lived approximately 2000 years ago.  And the time prior to 2000 years ago was the Old Testament.  However, in the Old Testament?hear this now?1500 years before Christ, and again 1000 years before Christ, and again 700 years before Christ, the coming of Jesus Christ was foretold!  To foretell means to promise ahead of time that something is going to happen.  The fact is, the Old Testament declares that: Sometime there will appear in our history a person called Christ.  This Christ is the Living God who took the form of a man, appeared before us, and showed us the way to God.

There are various prophecies about Christ in the Old Testament, but let me mention only four briefly.  First, when Christ comes into the world, He will be born of a virgin.  Does that seem strange to us?  Listen, there is nothing that the True God cannot do!  The gods made by people’s ideas and the gods of our superstitions and myths are too small!  To the Creator God, sending Christ by way of a virgin is nothing at all!

Second, when this Christ appears in the world, he will be born in a small village called Bethlehem.  You know about Christmas, don’t you?  It’s a Christian church celebration, right?  At the end of the year there are Christmas candle services, Christmas carols, etc.  All over town, for about a month, you hear the Christmas carol melodies.  Christmas is the Christian church’s celebration of the birth of Jesus Christ.  And, just as promised, Christ was born in a small village called Bethlehem.  Was that merely by chance?  The fact is, this was promised clearly before Christ came!

Third, when Christ appears, he will do astounding works.  He will heal the sick and open the eyes of blind people.  “What?” someone might say.  Take a look for yourself!  Eyewitnesses saw him do these things!  Not just once, but many times Christ performed these miracles!  Know this?The Bible is not merely a collection of “nice stories.”  Neither is it a compilation of myths and superstitions.  The Bible was written by eyewitnesses!  Take a look for yourself.

Fourth?something you know very well?the Cross.  That famous symbol.  We see it often on necklaces, etc.  Remember now, 1500 years before Christ, and again 1000 years before, and again 700 years before Christ…This prophecy was written: When Christ comes to the world, he will be put on a cross to die!  Now, how in the world could the people who wrote the Old Testament?ordinary people, mind you?make that kind of promise!  Not by the wisdom of men!  It had to be by revelation from above!  Someone greater than men told them!  When we think about this, don’t we also have to admit that something greater than religion is here!  Someone who far surpasses our religions is alive and working in our world!

The Bible declares that God is alive!  He existed before religions!  He is alive now!  He made heaven and earth.  He made us also, and He loves us.  He loves us!  There is actually a God who desires relationship with us, and wants to lead us and walk with us in this life!

Well, we could go on like this for a long time, but we must stop.  Actually, I wanted to say one more thing but, because there isn’t time, I printed it on this paper.  (Take out of the envelope to be given to couples later and show.)  I’ll give this to you later.  Take a good look when you have time.  However, let me give just one word of explanation about it.  If I don’t, I’m afraid you won’t be able to understand it.

This is taken from Psalm 139 in the Old Testament.  The Psalms are very famous literature!  They are known as some of the world’s most beautiful writings.  Ask your college professors?they know.  Most of the Psalms were written by David, a very famous king.  He lived about 3000 years ago, or about 1000 years before Christ.

This David was really rich.  Wow!  Wouldn’t that be nice!  Aren’t we jealous!  You’ve often thought, “Oh, if only I had enough money!” haven’t you!  But think?wouldn’t most of us say, “If I had that much money, there certainly wouldn’t be any need to think about God!”  Be honest now!  Isn’t that what we think?  Why do we have that idea?  Because we want to use God!  We think if we join a religion, we might get special favor from God.  Isn’t that why you visit three shrines at New Year?

But wait!  If God really exists, if there is One True God, you can’t use Him for what you want!  Good works will not gain His favor!  

David was a very wealthy king.  We might want to believe, “If I only had that kind of money, there would be no reason to worry about God!”  But see what this famous king says!  I’m sure you’ll be amazed.

Please pay special attention to this place.  (Point to starred paragraph.)  The reason is that, during your ceremony, I want to refer to this.  The thought here is, before you and I were ever born, the Living God knew about you and me.  He saw our future.  And He formed a wonderful plan for each person.  He has also formed a plan for you as a couple.  Wouldn’t you like to know what that plan is?

All of the above is to say this: There is special meaning to our lives!  God has a purpose for each person’s life.  We are not here by chance!  We were created with a plan; we were made for a special purpose!

This?this?is what is behind the chapel wedding!  Here is the true meaning of the Christian church ceremony!  Indeed, here is what gives true beauty (point to OR Begin paper) to the ceremony you have chosen!  Whether or not this beautiful thing, this truth, becomes yours personally or not is by your decision.  But remember that the reason for the entire explanation above is so you can experience The Real Thing?a genuine church wedding!

(Following this, I discuss the meaning of prayer?the next item on their program.  To me, this also is part of the “message,” and can be seen in the Japanese or Romaji script.  Comments on the meaning of the vows come next, and then the break time, rehearsal in the chapel, and, back in the room again, practical advice on the marriage relationship.  The message then continues:)

Our subject for this time has been “The Guarantee for a Happy Marriage!”  That is not the topic only for this Part 3, but, in fact, it has been the theme for this entire orientation time.  One more point on this matter remains.  Earlier, in order to explain the meaning of your wedding ceremony, I talked a bit about the Bible.  At that time I talked briefly about the One, True, Living God.  That was for your reference and in order for you to understand the real meaning of your wedding.  Now, I want to return to that place just a bit.  And, this time, I want to speak very personally.  Please listen carefully to what I say from my heart.  Guarantee of a Happy Marriage…our final point today.

All of us are created to actually know the Living God?to have fellowship with Him!  However, even though we were created by God, and in spite of the fact that He loves us and has prepared a wonderful plan for our lives, every single one of us has spurned God’s love, has disobeyed His commands, and has taken his or her own selfish way in life.  We ignore God and say we don’t need Him.

But that doesn’t work!  We are lonely, unsatisfied.  We are unable to solve life’s problems in our own strength and by our own intelligence.  Human relations are complex and hurtful. We envy, hate, hold grudges, and fight.  Sometimes our own family is split.  The workplace is hard, complex.  We feel pressure.  We get tired of the stress.  Many people die early from the strain of their jobs.

At such times, we cry, “Isn’t there some strength beyond me?  Isn’t there someone who can help me in my struggles?”  Every single person experiences this!  But how terribly sad it is that, at these times, we make things into gods?idols?and we begin to worship people as gods.  The Bible calls this sin. 

Perhaps we had in mind that sin is committing crimes.  But crimes come from a life without God.  We have no moral standards.  Our consciences are dead.  And so we cheat, lie, take bribes, hide money, embezzle, and so forth.  A new incident appears almost every day in our society!  But isn’t each one of us like that?  Don’t we think “A little lie is all right,” and “It’s not sin if you are not found out?”  Ignoring God.  No moral standards.  The conscience is dead.

A Japanese friend told me this?did you have any idea? ?There are 3000 different religions in Japan!  And it might surprise you to know that America is like this too!  Does this seem right for “developed” countries like Japan and America?  But someone might say, “Hey, wait!  Isn’t religion a fine thing?  No, no, I’m not interested, but doesn’t religion teach good things?  It’s all right to believe anything so long as it is meaningful for you.  After all, ‘All paths lead to the top of the same mountain!’”

Well, then, let me ask you, is it all right to believe in The True Path?  How about Life Space?  Wouldn’t you like to join The Flower of Life?  You see, the sin of The True Path was not in spreading sarin gas and killing people.  That is sin, of course!  But the real sin of The True Path was in ignoring the God who is alive?the Only True God?and making guru Asahara into god in place of Him!  This is what the Bible means by sin!

All religions of the world do this.  Oh, yes, there might be some “nice” religions?yes, there are good teachings, nice philosophies, noble ideals?but if they don’t show us the Creator God?the Only Living God?are they worth believing in?

People make religions!  We hear, “This is the way!” or, “I have special revelation.  Follow me!” or, “If you do this form of penance or these good deeds, you’ll receive benefit!”  Who says these things?  Ordinary people do!  Where is the proof?  Isn’t it people who decide that a certain person ought to be enshrined as a god?  Does that make that person a god?  Isn’t he, in fact, merely a person who has died?  No matter how famous or noble a person he was, he’s dead!  How can mere people make him into a god!

People make religions!  That’s why we have 3000 in Japan!  But listen!  Before there were ever any religions, the Creator God was!  He is the only God.  He is alive today!  People didn’t think Him up.  Nobody “discovered” Him.  God showed Himself to us!  And He clearly revealed, in our world, in history, the way that we can know Him!  Can that be true?  Well, since we also are living in history, if we really investigate, we can find out!

“Guarantee for a Happy Marriage”?the last point.  If what I have said today is not a lie?if what the Bible declares is true?then the only way to happiness in life, and the way to have a truly fulfilled marriage, is to be in fellowship with the God who made us!  And if what I have said is a lie, it is impossible to discover life’s true meaning or purpose!  Life is merely a cycle of, “Eat and sleep, work and get tired,” and then we die in darkness with no hope!  Indeed, whether or not what I have shared today is true becomes a matter of life or death!

How can we experience this Living God?  It is through Jesus Christ.  It is not through Christianity!  The word, “Christianity,” does not appear even once in the Bible!  The Bible is not promoting “religion.”  It is declaring a relationship with the Living God!

Why Jesus Christ?  You will find the answer to that in the back of the wedding booklet I gave you.  Read it carefully later.  Remember that no other person has ever entered history according to specific prophecies.  The meaning of Christmas candle services and Christmas carols is, God is with us!

Christ came into this world exactly as promised.  Just as it was foretold, He went to the Cross in place of us and died on the Cross in order to forgive our sins.  Then, in order to prove that He can give us eternal life, He rose from the dead on the third day!  Remember:  There is nothing that the True God cannot do!  He can help us overcome our sufferings and problems.  He can show you His wonderful plan for your lives!  That wonderful plan?wouldn’t you like to experience it?

Thank you for listening so politely to what I wanted to share with you.  That’s the end of my message.

(Here I present the Bible I signed during the rehearsal time.)

…We talked a little about prayer, didn’t we?  Remember that you can pray anytime, anywhere, just as you are, in your own words!  That’s because God is our Heavenly Father!  He has a profound interest in our lives! 

I will pray for you in your ceremony.  But remember?this is the most important thing I have said today?when I pray for you, I am not praying to “one god among many.”  I am not praying to the gods made by people’s ideas, or those of our myths and superstitions.  Nor am I praying to the dead human beings that people have declared to be gods.  Rather I pray to the God who was before everything, the only God there is, the One who would like to walk with you in your life.

(I then pray for the couples present and give closing comments, including an explanation of the handouts in their envelopes and an invitation to the next Vespers.  For these parts, please see the Japanese or Romaji script.)

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                ORIENTATION PLAN -- Overview

I  (60')  Understanding the Church Wedding Ceremony

     Get acquainted. // The need for this time. // The plan for today ?? three parts.

     The ceremony program:  Hymn, Scripture, Prayer, etc.  The God of the Bible, Ps. l39.

     The vows ?? the commitment!  (Copy of p. 13 from OR booklet)

II  (25')  Visit the Chapel, Rehearsal

     5' break first. // Call staff person for explanation (#11).

     Walk through the parts of the ceremony

III  (35')  "The Guarantee of a Happy Married Life!"

     Take couple's picture. // "What do you like about her/him?"

     Problems in marriage, practical advice (orientation booklet, page 4 ff.).

     Return to the matter of God, religions, sin. // Present Bible. // Pray for the couple.

     Request completion of information sheet

                                   Meeting the Couple

I  (60')  Understanding the Church Wedding Ceremony

A.  Personal introduction, and check names of couple(s).

I'd like to begin this time with an unusual question.  This is very interesting to me, and I really would like to hear your thoughts.  Why did you choose a "chapel wedding?"  A church ceremony.  Anything is OK!  Just as you are!

(If response is not immediate, fill in what others have said:  Allure of the white dress; beauty of the bridal path; dislike of wearing kimono; "shinzen" ceremony too stiff; attended Christian school; friends can attend; and "cute" (kakko ii).)

Yes, one of the special features of a church wedding is that your friends can enjoy it with you!  Invite as many as you like!  If you can't have them all to the banquet, just explain that to them.

B.  Today, "orientation." Why this time?  Three reasons.

But, first, think of it like this:  The next step in preparing for the wedding you have chosen.  Like choosing the dress, flowers, deciding on pictures, etc. ?? today's time also is very important!

  l.  To help you feel relaxed on day of wedding (kiraku ni, anshin shite).  (l) See what a "minister" is!  And, of course, (2) Understand ahead of time what you need to do.

 2.  To learn to know each other.  Especially at a time like this, don't you agree that relationship  is important?  Our wedding is the day we've dreamed about!  Especially for most girls!  Do you want a total stranger to do your ceremony?  I wouldn't!  We need to get acquainted (kao o awasete), hear from each other (otagai no kimochi o kiku)!  To me, your wedding is not merely a "ceremony."  It's not an "event!"  It might seem "cute," but I want to make it more than that.  I want to make it meaningful, beautiful for you.

This meeting today, for me, has  meaning (goen).  So, two requests:  (1) From now on, please be my friend.  I'd be delighted if you think of me as your pastor.  Should you ever want to talk with me, give me a call.  I'll be happy to come.  No obligation (gimu) ?? no need for Hiyoko Manja!  I'll come because we're friends! And, (2), please send me one snapshot soon ?? honeymoon or anything else.  I want to remember you.  I will write you.

     3.  To be able to give you the REAL THING!  A true chapel wedding!  You have chosen a "church wedding" = a Christian wedding ceremony.  You did this because you saw something beautiful there.  But you might not be aware of just how beautiful it is!  The white dress, walking down the aisle, friends can attend . . . yes, these too are lovely!  And a beautiful setting ?? marble, stained glass, organ!

But the real beauty of the ceremony you have chosen is not in these outward or surface things.  It is in what is behind the ceremony and in the meaning of the ceremony itself!  If you can understand that, your delight will be increased!

So, our plan:

     l.  The background and meaning of the ceremony.  Including the famous "vows!"  It might be said that these are the very center of the church wedding!  But where did they come from?  What do they mean?  No matter how much we say, "I promise," if we don't understand what we are saying, it has no meaning!

     2.  Visit the chapel, do an actual rehearsal.  This will really help you to feel relaxed.

     3.  Return here for:  "Guarantee for a Happy Marriage!" ?? some practical advice from my own experience and that of others.

Remember, the purpose of this time:  So you can experience the REAL THING!

Now, let's look at the program.  Here's a copy.  The real program is really nice ?? your friends will be glad to take it home as a souvenir.  I'm handing out one copy of all materials to each person, but when you go home, please take just one copy for the two of you.  Of course, if you need both, please feel free to take them.  I'll explain each part of the program step by step.  There are pencils in front of you.  Please use them to make notes on anything that seems especially helpful.

We promise this to EACH OTHER!  Before witnesses!  The vows of a church wedding are really something (sugoi), aren't they! 

**To love**  True love.  This is NOT "like!"  Like = a mere emotion or a physical attraction.  "Like" is conditional ?? If you are nice to me . . . if your keep your attractiveness . . . if everything goes well, etc.  = Self is at the center.  It thinks only about its own feelings/convenience

Also, love is not sex.  For some, relationship began with this. = A very weak foundation for marriage.  But you can change that and make your relationship one of true love.  I'm glad you are coming now to make a true commitment!

TRUE LOVE IS UNCONDITIONAL.  It always focuses on the benefit and happiness of the other person.  It's even willing to give it's own life for the other person.  How can we know TRUE love?  See the Bible passage in your program ?? read it thoughtfully later.  Also, the Bible says that true, full love is shown to us in the Cross of Jesus Christ.  Why?  Take a look and see sometime.  It's really beautiful!

**To respect (cherish)**  My way of expressing "cherish":  My wife is my jewel/My husband is my treasure.  If "jewel," "treasure," won't we prize her/him, give special care?  Why this talk?  In our society:  the idea that the woman is the property of the man.  = Man is superior to woman.  Discrimmination!  It's in the words we use too!  This is NOT cherishing!  This attitude goes against the meaning of the church wedding.  It opposes the teaching of the Bible too.

Before God, woman and man are equal.  Each has been given a unique nature, special gifts.  Marriage is joining those natures and gifts into one and mutually supporting one another!  It is recognizing each other as EQUAL!  It is expressing mutual respect to each other (otagai ni sonchC shiau)! "She too is the same kind of person!"  (Kanojo mo onaji ningen desu!)  A happy marriage begins here!

If any influence remains in us from our culture that woman is inferior or that man is superior, get rid of it now (sakujo)!  And let this attitude show in the way we treat each other, in the words we use to each other!  "She too is the same kind of person."

**As long as we both shall live . . . **  Marriage is for life!  To cast off our spouse and take up with another, as some seem to do so easily (ii kagen ni), is unthinkable!  In the Bible, divorce is not permitted except in extreme cases where the vows have been flagrantly violated.  If we don't think of marriage in this way ?? for life ?? our ceremony is meaningless!

Really?  Well, then, is it ok to believe in Amu ShinrikyC?  You see, the greatest sin of Amu ShinrikyC was not in spreading sarin gas and killing people.  That is sin, of course!  But their greatest sin was in rejecting the Living God who made us and making Asahara god in place of Him!

And this is what all religions do ?? they make something, or someone, god IN PLACE OF the true God!  Good teachings, nice philosophy, fine ideals . . . yes, many!  But if they don't show us the TRUE God, are they worthy of our faith (shinjiru neuchi ga arimasu ka)?  People make religions (ShakyC wa, hito ga tsukurimasu)!  But the Living God was before religions!  He made us!  And He showed us the way to know Him!

Our topic:  "A happy marriage!"  The final point:  If what I have said today is not a lie (uso de nakereba) . . . if what the Bible declares is true (shinjitsu/makoto de aru naraba) . . . then, meaning in life (jinsei no ikigai), and happiness in our marriage, is in knowing God and seeking His plan for our lives. 

How to know God?  Never by thinking "religion!"  Religion = people seeking God by OUR ideas.  Thus so many!  But God  showed Himself to us!  And we can know Him in only one way ?? the way He revealed.  If this God does not exist . . . if what the Bible declares is not true . . . then we exist merely by chance and there is no meaning or purpose in life!

How to know God?  Through Jesus Christ.  "Huh?  Why Jesus?"  Because His Cross is the answer for our sin.  "What do you mean? (Sore ga dC iu imi?)  How can that be?  (Sore ga dCshite?)  Take a look sometime!  You'll be amazed.  This is explained briefly in the final pages of your booklet. // And, to change the subject now, about that booklet, on page 18 I promised to give you the little pamphlet, Four Spiritual Laws.  But I've changed that.  Instead here are two interesting little pamphlets.  (Hand out Naze? and Jinsei no Ikigai.)  Take a look at them when you have time.

We talked about the Bible today.  I would like to give you one.  The front says, "Concise."  This means, "yCyaku."  I was giving only the NT.  But this contains sections from both the OT and the NT!  I think you will enjoy the nice pictures.  And it is in a translation which is easy to understand!  (Hand out Bible(s))

  I recall again Rev. Arase ?? 82 years old, still very active ?? He says:  Read the Bible ?? even for one month; pray ?? even for one month; go to church ?? even for one month.  If you do, something wonderful will happen!

Don't misunderstand -- this is not a "magic formula" (mahCteki teisoku)!  It is not in order to "gain merit" (goriyaku o eru)!  But I promise, too, something special will happen. 

Remember those famous words, "Ask, and it shall be given . . . seek, and you shall find .  . . knock, and the door shall be opened to you . . ."  The words of Jesus Christ.  I wish I could give you this experience, wrapped in pretty paper, as a wedding present!  But I can't.  Each person must seek for himself/herself with an honest heart. 

At least, will you do this:  Investigate the facts ?? see for yourself if what I have said is true.  We are living in history.  So, if God showed Himself in history, we can find out by investigating (shirabetara, wakarimasu).

Finally, a completely different subject . . . More and more people are coming here to be married.  I'm delighted!  Sometimes, 3, 4, 5, weddings in one day!  But I promise you something:  When I stand before you on your wedding day, YOUR wedding is the only one to me!  There was none before, and there is none after!  I will put my whole heart into your ceremony.  I will do my best to make it a meaningful and beautiful time for you.

Now, would you take a few minutes to fill out this little information sheet.  (Hand out.)  I really want to know your address and telephone number.  The items below "jiya" are up to you.  But if you don't mind, let me know about your hobbies, work, etc.  

(Hand out the Psalm l39 paper, and hand out the Japanese copy of the page which follows this one.  Gather extra materials and exit to office for a time while couples are writing.

Thank you for your good attention today for this rather long time.  Otsukare sama deshita!  We're now finished.   I look forward very much to your wedding ceremony.  Do take care. 

Doyle C. Book                              Revised November 1998

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 (The Japanese copy of this page is to be handed out at end of session. Or, it can be spoken for emphasis, as needed.)

Some reminders.  Be sure to read this paper the day before your ceremony!

In a church wedding, you can just relax and be yourself.  There are no "mistakes!"  You don't have to be up tight!  Remember, this is not a show (yokyC), not an "event!"  The staff and minister will direct you in everything.  This is the day you have been dreaming about.  It is your special day.  Enjoy!  It's OK to express your feelings ?? OK to smile, or cry! 

Even if you feel "hung up" on something, don't get up tight.  Relax, go slowly.  Just as you are!

Examples:  (l) Ring exchange.  Even if the ring is tight, don't panic, don't be embarrassed.  Go slowly.  Try bending the finger ?? ring will go on more easily.  Or, if really tight, partner may help!  Relax and take your time.  Practice ring exchange ahead of time so you're used to it.

(2)  Wedding dress.  Sometimes hard to walk.  Just change bouquet from one hand to the other, pick up skirt with free hand!  Just be free.  Look up ?? there's your groom waiting for his bride!  Smile if you like.  But don't be concerned about your feet ?? much better to pick up your skirt so you can look up and enjoy that walk down the aisle.

(3)  Kiss.  Remember, nothing to be embarrassed about.  No need to be tense or flustered (kinchC, awateru).  Lift veil, both hands on bride's shoulders, kiss ?? cheek, or lips, or forehead ?? one or two seconds.  Not just a quick peck ?? that suggests confusion, embarrassment (awateru kakko)! 

The meaning of the kiss:  I receive you as my only, true love for life.  And I give myself to you and will keep myself for you alone.  Beautiful!  If you decide to kiss on the lips, the minister will watch for lipstick on the groom, give tissue during final song.

When standing or moving, always link arms. // Curtain opens when you go up to the altar.  Wow!! // After being introduced in English, still on the platform, bow to the audience, go down the steps, bow to both parents, EXIT VERY SLOWLY!  Greet friends with smiles.  Nod or wave if you wish. // Groom walk to left side of aisle because of wide skirt/long veil.

If banquet at Bell Classic, limousine comes!  Stand up inside, put heads and shoulders through sun roof, wave to friends ?? until car turns corner and friends are no longer visibl

And now relax!  The staff and minister will direct you in everything.  This is the day you have been looking forward to ?? enjoy! // And, finally, BE SURE TO EAT BREAKFAST the day of the wedd